I've been really broody lately. I just can't get the idea of having a baby out of my head. My husband doesn't really take me seriously and we can't really afford for me to stop working. What can I do?
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Make him take you seriously!! Have a chat with him and tell him your plans for the future. Find out how long he wants to wait before he has kids, if you have a date you can aim for it gives you something to look forward to when you are feeling broody!!
Borrow my 3yr old for the day if you want, she will soon put you off, in fact, you can have my 3 teenage sons and all:))
Good package deal or what!
So u are looking forward too sleepless nights,dirty nappies,no social life,bouts of crying,fitting in the house work.
Do i need to go on?
I'm feeling kind of stupid right now, I had to go to dictionary.com to find out what the word broody meant. LOL. OK now getting serious, you're probably thinking about it because you feel like you are really ready to have a baby. Find a way to talk to your husband and see if he is ready as well, because if he's not that might be why he is avoiding discussing the topic with you. If financial problems is what is holding him back from wanting to have a baby, then the two of you should discuss what needs to happen before he'd feel comfortable with the idea. Another thing, if you were to decide to have a baby now, you don't have to stop working. I know that a lot of women want to stop working to raise the children because they're afraid of what will happen to the children if they don't but a lot of women either don't stop working or are like you can't stop working and the children turn out fine.
I hope that you start feeling better soon and that the two of you can come to terms with something that will make the both of you happy.
Having a baby should never be about money, it's more about having fufillment in your life. A child is also a lot of responsibility, and costly, both emotionally and physically, all those sleepless nights! Children come with no guidelines nor instructions, they will be life changing.
If your broody,feel unloved, unneeded, check what else is missing in your life and relationship. Sorry but you say that your husband does not take you seriously, is it that you are both still quite young? You should question his view of "you" does he see you as an equal who is a responsible, capable adult? If he is not as keen as you, you also have to question will he ever want a child?
Oh and never bring a child into a relationship that is not working, having a baby will not solve anything.
i am the same, so i can truly sympothise with you (((hugs)))
if having another baby is out of the option, and if it is just the feeling of wanting to be pregnant, you want, then why not do the likes of surrogacy? (sorry if you are against the idea)
it is a horrible way to feel though, best thing to do is just to try and get on with life (which is sooo much easier than done) and just enjoy life xxx
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